Being a great mother means that you would do anything for your child, but it does not necessarily mean that you are a perfect person. No, not every mom in the world makes it through her child’s entire life without moments of weakness where she might question whether she is doing a great job at parenting. But that does not mean that a mom who has doubts in her ability is not still a good mom or that she is not a loving mother.

Life doesn’t always go how you wish that it would. But life is not the choice you make to keep on living. Life is simply a fact. What I mean by this, is that life is not a choice we make. Yes, we can “pro-create” and reproduce through our own choices, but we are not the creators, and we are not the source of that life; we are simply entrusted with it.

Women are entrusted with this life-protective role from the moment of conception. As women lived and died throughout time, some of them found ways to end the lives of their children while they were pregnant. But it was not always this way. According to historical accounts of some of the darker times in human history, unwanted babies were taken to the top of the tower of Babel and sacrificed to Moloch. These unwanted children were often the result of sexual rituals of those involved in worship of Nimrod and Semiramis, who figuratively became the Sun god and Moon goddess perpetuated throughout history in various forms and by various names. (Watch this video series.)

What is the difference between child sacrifice inside the womb and child sacrifice once a child is born? One is now legal and one is not. That’s it. Just because something is legal does not mean it is right. Our world has come so far down a slippery slope of immorality and distance away from God’s design for humanity that the word family is now almost meaningless. The life of an innocent child has become valueless. And the role of a mother has been devalued so much that people have come to consider blogging to be more important than attending to their own child. You’re about to see what I mean…

I saw a disturbing article the other day, called “Why I Sometimes Wish I’d Had an Abortion.” The other mothers I saw on Facebook commenting about this piece of internet trash (one for the record books) were all legitimately filled with rage. In this blog, the mother speaks about how she has tried to be a great mom and yet, “Parenting in this f—–d up world” makes her wish that she had had an abortion. She says she needed “several lifetimes” to prepare to give this child a better life, by bettering this world first.

“In a previous blog post, I wrote about how having a baby changed my mind about abortion. The hardship of four years of unplanned parenthood made me change my former staunch pro-life position.

But in this post, I want to be even more explicit. It’s not just that I now support women’s right to choose as some sort of abstract ideology. I actually often regret having a child myself. Especially lately.

I recently posted on Facebook about four abused, neglected siblings who are up for adoption as a package deal. Who knows, maybe their parents were great and CPS just kidnapped them for no reason. But that’s beside the point. The point is there are basically zero happy, healthy, financially-prepared, functioning families out there willing to adopt four kids.

I posted the story along with the caption – “This is why I support abortion.” Several indignant people responded that abortion is never the answer – that no life, no matter how miserable it’s destined to become, should be prevented from being brought into existence.

It’s a ridiculous argument really. If taken to its logical conclusion, every opportunity for an egg to be fertilized should be taken – it’s a potential life – we can’t let it go unlived! Being alive is always better than not having been alive, the fundamentalists insist. “Ask any adult who was abused or neglected in childhood if he would’ve rather never been born,” one lady said.”

See here how she speaks of an egg being potentially fertilized at some point, and equates it with a child already growing in the womb? This is a trick she must be playing on herself to equate her once not-yet-born child with the unfertilized eggs in her ovaries in order to make the pro-life argument appear ridiculous.

She goes on:

“I guess my point is, parenting is not my talent. My talent is researching stuff, trying to figure out what is wrong with the world and how to fix it… and then writing about it. That’s what I want to spend my time doing, not playing Barbies and begging my kid to eat real food.

I don’t want to sound too negative about all of this, because, at the end of the day, I would never, ever give her up. It’s just I wish I’d had more time – perhaps several lifetimes – to prepare a better world for her to enter into, because that’s what she deserves.”

Sad to see this type of twisted thinking going viral. Reality says that you don’t really get several lifetimes to prepare to have a child. That isn’t what life is about.

Nor can thinking like this, throughout one lifetime, or several, make a better world – not for her daughter, not for anyone.

The implication here with this woman’s blog cannot be dismissed. She is saying that she would not give up her child now, but she sometimes wishes she had before. Her goal seems to be to cast doubt in the minds of others about their pregnancies, if not to justify an abortion she’s had or may plan on having if she ever becomes pregnant again. How evil is it to not only justify your own abortion, but to wish your child had never been born? How evil is it to make mothers feel that they will regret having their children? How evil is it to pretend you’re a former pro-life convert to pro-choice just because parenting is hard.

Babies are not unfertilized eggs or potential life. Fertilized eggs are the earliest form of a human life, but it is not potential life. By the time you find out you are pregnant, your child already has a heartbeat.

Pray for this woman, that her heart and her mind will be changed.







Reprinted from the above website:

Infant Feeding Advice

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Babywise and Preparation for Parenting (also known as Let the Children Come: Along the Infant Way) have been criticized by hundreds of professionals in pediatric medicine, human lactation, psychology, anthropology, child development, and theology. Problems have been associated with these programs — cases of slow weight gain, failure to thrive, depressed babies, even hospitalization. Its feeding recommendations were the subject of a warning sent out by the AAP.

The following are some of the concerns experts share :

  • Lack of expertise and credentials. The primary authors of the material, Gary and Anne Marie Ezzo, are self-proclaimed experts. Gary Ezzo has no background or expertise in child development, psychology, breastfeeding, or pediatric medicine, and holds neither an associate’s nor a bachelor’s degree from any college. His master of arts degree in Christian ministry was granted through a program that awarded credit for life experience in lieu of an undergraduate degree.

    Anne Marie Ezzo worked only briefly as an R.N. decades ago. The Ezzos raised two daughters who are presently estranged from them.

    It is unclear what, if anything, Babywise co-author Dr. Robert Bucknam contributed to that book, since versions of the book for the Christian market are essentially the same (though with added religious material) and do not have his name on the cover.

  • Risks for breastfeeding mothers and babies. Breastfeeding on a parent-determined schedule (including a “flexible routine” as it is called in Babywise) may reduce a mother’s milk supply and contradicts the recommendations of the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), which has stated, “The best feeding schedules are the ones babies design themselves. Scheduled feedings designed by parents may put babies at risk for poor weight gain and dehydration.”
  • Poor breastfeeding information. Although it is presented as authoritative, the breastfeeding information presented in Babywise is inaccurate and substandard (compare with the AAP Breastfeeding recommendations from the 2005 AAP Policy Statement on Breastfeeding and the Use of Human Milk).
  • One Size Doesn’t Fit All. All babies and mothers are treated alike without any respect given for individual differences in breastmilk storage capacity, rate of milk synthesis, rate of infant metabolism or stomach capacity.   In actuality, the number of feedings one mother’s body requires in order to supply her baby with plenty of milk each day will be quite different from other mothers around her. Similarly, breastfed babies need varying amounts milk in varying numbers and sizes of feedings, and they do not feed exactly the same way from one feeding to the next in any case. Ezzo seemingly expects all babies to respond in an identical manner.  This is no more realistic than expecting adults to consume the same amounts of food on the same schedule and grow (or lose weight!) at the same rate.
  • A high-pressure presentation impacts parents’ perception of what is at stake:
    • Pressure to maintain the regimen. The rules for sleep, feedings and wake time are portrayed as critical to follow in order to achieve a healthy outcome, while health and behavior problems for the baby, and sleepless nights for the parents, are predicted if the program is not followed. (Flexibility is praised but is described as small, short-term adjustments to the prescribed regimen. Parents are warned against making open-ended adaptations.)
    • Misplaced moral dilemmas. How well the parents and the baby adhere to the program is framed as a moral or biblical issue (e.g. permissiveness on the part of parents, uncooperativeness on the part of the baby).
    • Parents are reluctant to give up on the method. Health care professionals have observed that even when their babies were doing poorly on the program, parents often wanted to stick with it.
  • Essential Reading:

    AAP Media Alert | PDF version
    This media alert was issued after the AAP evaluated On Becoming Babywise.

    “Examining the Evidence for Cue Feeding” | PDF version
    by Jan Barger, RN, MS, IBCLS and Lisa Marasco, MA, IBCLC

    “Babywise Advice Linked to Dehydration, Failure to Thrive”
    by Matthew Aney, MD, AAP News

    For Further Information

    Critiques, reviews and professional analyses of Babywise and Prep
    Heath Care Professionals Quoted in News Reports
    News reports and media coverage
    Comparisons of Ezzo and AAP Advice
    Personal stories of former Babywise users
    Frequently Asked Questions

This is an interesting news piece on what people do – and don’t do – when they see children being mistreated on leashes.

I am curious how many of our readers have ever had to use a leash and what ages / circumstances they were used for.


From Lawyers and Settlements:

February 20, 2010. By Heidi Turner // <![CDATA[//

Nurse Discusses Reglan Use in Infants

Lexington, GA: Terry P, a nurse in Georgia, worked with premature babies in a Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU). She says she cannot remember a single premature baby in her care who was not given Reglan, despite the fact that there is still little information available about the long-term effects of Reglan on infants.

Nurse Discusses Reglan Use in Infants“Reglan is used to help with gut motility,” Terry says. “It’s used for premature babies because their bodies are not ready to work like yours and mine. When you try to feed them, their peristalsis [muscle contractions that move food through the digestive tract] is not as efficient. Doctors try to boot it up with Reglan.”

However, Reglan is also used to enhance breast milk production, and Terry says infants could be exposed to even greater quantities of the drug that way.

“The thing is, you might be giving the infant only a small amount of Reglan, but when you weigh only 500 grams, that’s a lot of medication to take in.”

“There was one doctor in particular who was a ‘breastfeed your baby or you’ll kill it’ doctor,” says Terry. “Some women can’t do it. Breast milk is the best thing for babies—they can digest it best. But not all women can do it. This doctor was writing prescriptions for Reglan to increase breast milk production.”

Premature babies have a premature neurological system, which means they react to noise, touch and other stimulus by becoming jittery and moving their arms and legs up and down. “Even sound will cause that jitteriness,” Terry says. “But they shouldn’t stay that way all the time.”

Under normal circumstances, the infant can be calmed down. “But if the drug is increasing that jitteriness, they’re messing the babies up by giving them Reglan,” says Terry. “The thing is, they were all on Reglan. There was not one premature baby who was not given Reglan.

“They were given Reglan as soon as feeding was incorporated. Say there is a baby who is 24 weeks gestation—normal is approximately 40 weeks. Once the baby is stabilized and the blood oxygen is good, they start tube feeding the baby and start the Reglan with the feeding so that the gut will contract like a normal gut and the food will move through. That could be as soon as a week after birth.

“The thing is, you might be giving the infant only a small amount of Reglan, but when you weigh only 500 grams, that’s a lot of medication to take in.”

Reglan now carries a black box warning alerting patients to the risk of tardive dyskinesia, especially if the drug is used for longer than 12 weeks. However, some critics argue there is still insufficient evidence to show that Reglan is safe for infants. According to the labeling information, serious Reglan side effects “happen more often in children and adults under age 30,” including uncontrolled spasms of the face and neck muscles, or muscles of the body, arms and legs.

If you have an infant who was treated with Reglan and are worried about potential side effects, contact a doctor to discuss your concerns.

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Tomorrow, September 13, 2009 is the one year anniversary of Indiana Delahunty’s death.

Please go to Christian’s & Matt’s blog to offer some moral support to the family.


Please read this article on The Bitter Pill:


Here are a few excerpts:

In reality, you cannot separate the need for the baby to be healthy and to survive from the mother’s mental state. How many mothers honestly do not worry that something could go wrong with their babies or do not feel responsible for protecting their children? How many women who lost children can go on day by day not feeling anything about that loss? Which antidepressant are you supposed to take to help with depression if you’re dealing with loss after your baby dies from an antidepressant?

[T]o quote the ACOG release, “[T]he use of antidepressant medications during pregnancy have been associated with negative consequences for the newborn…some studies have linked fetal malformations, cardiac defects, pulmonary hypertension, and reduced birth weight to antidepressant use during pregnancy.”

If you had PPD before, then by all means if you are going to take drugs for PPD, do so after the baby is born and don’t do it while nursing. The time it takes you to get your placebo effect should be well worth it considering the peace of mind and increased safety for the baby.

Even after considering the fact that antidepressants actually cause depression and suicide, and work about as well as a placebo, this catch phrase makes about as much sense to me as saying that a mom who is addicted to crack, or drinks 5 coffees a day, or smokes, or is an alcoholic, should be told to keep doing those things if it eases her anxiety or fatigue while pregnant. Or about as much sense as telling women to go take Thalidomide because we’re not really sure that Thalidomide causes problems and it was probably actually the morning sickness causing the birth defects and not the Thalidomide. The jury is still out on whether swallowing RAID or drinking bleach while pregnant is bad for your baby. Perhaps working in a nuclear plant or handling plutonium should be considered safe for pregnant women too.

Here’s an interesting article on It’s Your Birth Right about some of the discrepancies between what the ACOG says and what the ACOG does. It ends with a warning about the self-interested movement away from good maternity care and towards the best financial outcomes for OBs.

Check it out:


ACOG… REALLY??!! You thought THAT was okay?!

Thanks Nicole!