Being a great mother means that you would do anything for your child, but it does not necessarily mean that you are a perfect person. No, not every mom in the world makes it through her child’s entire life without moments of weakness where she might question whether she is doing a great job at parenting. But that does not mean that a mom who has doubts in her ability is not still a good mom or that she is not a loving mother.
Life doesn’t always go how you wish that it would. But life is not the choice you make to keep on living. Life is simply a fact. What I mean by this, is that life is not a choice we make. Yes, we can “pro-create” and reproduce through our own choices, but we are not the creators, and we are not the source of that life; we are simply entrusted with it.
Women are entrusted with this life-protective role from the moment of conception. As women lived and died throughout time, some of them found ways to end the lives of their children while they were pregnant. But it was not always this way. According to historical accounts of some of the darker times in human history, unwanted babies were taken to the top of the tower of Babel and sacrificed to Moloch. These unwanted children were often the result of sexual rituals of those involved in worship of Nimrod and Semiramis, who figuratively became the Sun god and Moon goddess perpetuated throughout history in various forms and by various names. (Watch this video series.)
What is the difference between child sacrifice inside the womb and child sacrifice once a child is born? One is now legal and one is not. That’s it. Just because something is legal does not mean it is right. Our world has come so far down a slippery slope of immorality and distance away from God’s design for humanity that the word family is now almost meaningless. The life of an innocent child has become valueless. And the role of a mother has been devalued so much that people have come to consider blogging to be more important than attending to their own child. You’re about to see what I mean…
I saw a disturbing article the other day, called “Why I Sometimes Wish I’d Had an Abortion.” The other mothers I saw on Facebook commenting about this piece of internet trash (one for the record books) were all legitimately filled with rage. In this blog, the mother speaks about how she has tried to be a great mom and yet, “Parenting in this f—–d up world” makes her wish that she had had an abortion. She says she needed “several lifetimes” to prepare to give this child a better life, by bettering this world first.
“In a previous blog post, I wrote about how having a baby changed my mind about abortion. The hardship of four years of unplanned parenthood made me change my former staunch pro-life position.
But in this post, I want to be even more explicit. It’s not just that I now support women’s right to choose as some sort of abstract ideology. I actually often regret having a child myself. Especially lately.
I recently posted on Facebook about four abused, neglected siblings who are up for adoption as a package deal. Who knows, maybe their parents were great and CPS just kidnapped them for no reason. But that’s beside the point. The point is there are basically zero happy, healthy, financially-prepared, functioning families out there willing to adopt four kids.
I posted the story along with the caption – “This is why I support abortion.” Several indignant people responded that abortion is never the answer – that no life, no matter how miserable it’s destined to become, should be prevented from being brought into existence.
It’s a ridiculous argument really. If taken to its logical conclusion, every opportunity for an egg to be fertilized should be taken – it’s a potential life – we can’t let it go unlived! Being alive is always better than not having been alive, the fundamentalists insist. “Ask any adult who was abused or neglected in childhood if he would’ve rather never been born,” one lady said.”
See here how she speaks of an egg being potentially fertilized at some point, and equates it with a child already growing in the womb? This is a trick she must be playing on herself to equate her once not-yet-born child with the unfertilized eggs in her ovaries in order to make the pro-life argument appear ridiculous.
She goes on:
“I guess my point is, parenting is not my talent. My talent is researching stuff, trying to figure out what is wrong with the world and how to fix it… and then writing about it. That’s what I want to spend my time doing, not playing Barbies and begging my kid to eat real food.
I don’t want to sound too negative about all of this, because, at the end of the day, I would never, ever give her up. It’s just I wish I’d had more time – perhaps several lifetimes – to prepare a better world for her to enter into, because that’s what she deserves.”
Sad to see this type of twisted thinking going viral. Reality says that you don’t really get several lifetimes to prepare to have a child. That isn’t what life is about.
Nor can thinking like this, throughout one lifetime, or several, make a better world – not for her daughter, not for anyone.
The implication here with this woman’s blog cannot be dismissed. She is saying that she would not give up her child now, but she sometimes wishes she had before. Her goal seems to be to cast doubt in the minds of others about their pregnancies, if not to justify an abortion she’s had or may plan on having if she ever becomes pregnant again. How evil is it to not only justify your own abortion, but to wish your child had never been born? How evil is it to make mothers feel that they will regret having their children? How evil is it to pretend you’re a former pro-life convert to pro-choice just because parenting is hard.
Babies are not unfertilized eggs or potential life. Fertilized eggs are the earliest form of a human life, but it is not potential life. By the time you find out you are pregnant, your child already has a heartbeat.
Pray for this woman, that her heart and her mind will be changed.